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Sunday, 02 January 2011

Drama: A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

Written by  Sherri Mandell , Michael Tobin

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Drama: A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

Sue: I wasn't going to say anything because I don't want to start a fight. But I think I should communicate what I'm feeling to you.

Ethan: Go ahead.

Sue: What do you mean go ahead? Like you're doing me a favor to listen to me?

Ethan: What do you want to say? Say it and I can go back to my paper.

Sue: That's the whole point: Listen to what you just said. Say it so I can go back to my book...you just want to get me out of the way. You're not interested in who I am.

Ethan: I don't know why you're starting like this. I'm relaxing.

Sue: You never focus on me, unless we're having sex. So we have a good sex life and that's great. When you come to me in the kitchen and put your arms around me, that's great too. But you focus on my body. You don't focus on my mind, or my feelings or my heart.

Ethan: That's not true.

Suee: Do you ever say to me, like my women friends: What's going on with you?

Ethan: I am here for you whenever you need me. I was in there ironing. What other husband is ironing? You don't appreciate me for what I give you. I'm not one of your girlfriends. I'm not going to say to you, "Oh how are you? What happened to you today?"

Sue: Why not? Don't you care about me? What I'm thinking and feeling?

Ethan: You share with me what you're thinking and feeling. We don't have to have a review every night of Sue's day.

Sue: You know what brought all this up? I'm sitting here reading this diary from when I was 17. I'm struck by what a different person I was then. And you see me reading this diary night after night and not once have you ever asked me about it. You're not interested.

Ethan: I figure if you wanted me to read it you would say, "Ethan, here -- read this."

Sue: Remember that game we used to play, "Let's talk about what happened when we were five?" We talked about what we were like when we were kids. We laughed. We played.

Ethan: (he laughs) That's because I wanted to get you into bed.

Sue: You're not funny. As soon as we got married, you stopped asking me anything.

Ethan: I know you.

Sue: You think you do. I want us to be more intimate. When I thought about what it would be like to be married this was my fantasy: We'd lie in bed side by side for hours, and we'd talk, talk, talk.

Ethan: Sue, I had another fantasy...we'd lie in bed and have sex, sex, sex. And then we'd hold hands. And lie there without speaking. You have to understand. I talk all day. You know how many patients I saw today? Every single one of those patients was needy. When I come home, I need quiet.

Sue: Oh, that's great. So what are we married for? To screw?

Ethan: I need my space, too. You have to respect my needs too.

Sue: I just wish you were more....available for me. I wish you wanted to talk to me. To listen. To share my life.

Ethan: I'm here for you, Sue. But you have to understand: there are different ways of sharing.

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Sherri Mandell

Sherri Mandell

Sherri Mandell has a Master's degree in Creative Writing and has taught writing at the University of Maryland and Penn State University. She is the author of the book Writers of the Holocaust. She has written articles for the Washington Post. She is married with four children

Michael Tobin

Michael Tobin

Dr. Michael Tobin has been a psychologist since 1974, specializing in marital and family therapy. He is the author of numerous articles on marriage and family relationships and is the founder of WholeFamily.com. He's  been married to Deborah for 38 years and is the father of four children and grandfather to five.

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