The Wrong Way

Dear Mom and Dad,
I am sick and tired of your bitching and complaining at me all the time and I wish I could just be out of this house. If you are not complaining about me you are fighting with one another and I can't stand to listen to your fights night and day. Why don't you just get a divorce? At least it would be quiet. I hate both of you and can't stand another day here. If I could leave home and never come back, I would. You are the worst parents I can possibly imagine. Why don't you get a life?

I wish I weren't your daughter.
Jennifer

The Write Way

Dear Mom and Dad,

You both have been very tense for a long time. When you yell and fight with one another I feel angry and sad and scared, because I it seems like our life is just one big fight after another. I am afraid that you are going to get a divorce if you keep this up.

When you told me to shut-up yesterday and then criticized me for being nosey, I felt really hurt. I thought you were blaming me for your tension.

I know that there are things about being married that I don't understand and I hope you don't think I am saying that I would know how to do it better. I don't. But if you can't figure it out between the two of you, maybe you could see somebody who could help you.

Mom and Dad, I love you both. You are both really good people.

Love,Jennifer

Sample letters written by Ms. Patricia Lawrence Pomposello, CSW and psychotherapist.

Use at least several of the following principles while writing your letter:
Don't blame. Don't accuse. Make "I" statements. Share your feelings honestly but respectfully.Be specific about what bothers you. End with a statement that affirms your belief in them and your love.