Rape and Sexual Abuse

A Tae Kwon Do state champion writes, “The room was cold and I could hear other kids snoring on the couches. I was frozen, inside and out, outraged and shocked. I didn't fight. I didn't scream. I didn't even say ‘stop.’ Mostly, I just couldn't believe it was happening.” Sally Byrne decides to help other girls fight back with this scary story that comes with practical advice for empowerment and strength.

Advice From Sara Q: I'm 20 years old (in a month) and I've been in recovery from anorexia for about 9 months now. I eat pretty normally now, except for a few quirks I have.

I am having a really big problem. My boyfriend has been forcing me to have sex but I don't want to. The reason why I don't want to have sex is that my brother used to sexually touch when we had to go to bed. Every time my boyfriend touches me sexually I see my brother's face and hear his voice. What should I do? - Untouched

Q: My dad and I get into so many stupid little fights its not funny. Sometimes I feel like I'm nothing but a punching bag for him to take out his anger on. My mom and I get along great but sometimes it gets a little ugly, but we work it out. With my dad, I can hold a grudge forever. My mom tells me that his parents were really strict and hard on him, but I don't think he should take it out on me.

* Know that each woman reacts differently to trauma; there are no "rights" and "wrongs." * Call your local Rape Crisis Center or Victims Rights Group. A volunteer will accompany you to the hospital. # Your check-up will include evidence collecting, so it's important not to shower before going to the hospital. You may not want to press charges now, but if you change your mind later, it will help your case. You will also receive drugs to prevent pregnancy and STD's. # The hospital should contact the police, if you request. Remember, reporting the crime does not oblige you to press charges or appear in court.