I am a mother in the middle of a divorce and a vicious custody battle over my 12-year-old son. My son's father is brainwashing him against me, but my son's therapist has been telling him not to say anything negative against his father. How can I get these awful ideas about me out of my son's head? --
If your former husband will see a counselor about parenting, he's likely to be advised not to denigrate you, so it would make sense to encourage him to find a good counselor. If any counselor sees both of you together, that counselor is likely to help you give appropriate, consistent messages to your son. Even one or two meetings together can make an important, positive difference for your son's future adjustment.